>Date: Tue, 9 May 2006
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>Hi Susan,
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>Welcome to Beth O'Malley's
>Lifebook Tips Newsletter:
>May 2006
>
>First issue August 2002,
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> What's in this Issue?
>
>---Mother Nature Strikes Again
>
>---It's All happening at the Zoo
>
>---Real Life
>
>---Does Your child Like Lobster or Cotton Candy?
>
>---Cool Reader Tip: Moons
>
>---May is National Foster Care Month
> Check out Carrie Craft
>
>---Beth's Lifebook Shoppe
>
>---Dogearred Sweepstakes
>
>---Personal Stuff
>
>---Personal Stuff Archives: Last chance
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>
>Mother Nature Strikes Again
>
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>There is a lot to be said for
>Mother Nature & everyday life
>when it comes to
>adoption/foster care discussion.
>
>Don't keep adoption related discussion
>just for minutes before bed,
>or heaven forbid
>waiting for questions.
>
>Or thinking that
>therapists are the only
>'qualified' people.
>
>Push yourself to bring up the topic.
>Naturally age related.
>
>When I see pregnant women
>I'll comment to my 3-year-old
>"Hey look, she's got a baby growing inside her tummy."
>
>Sometimes my next question is
>"whose tummy did you grow in?"
>She smiles and replies with her birth mother's first name.
>
>If she was 7 then this wouldn''t work.
>By then I'll have another approach.
>But the foundation will have been laid.
>
>^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
>
>"Start by doing what's necessary,
>then what's possible,
>and suddenly you are doing the impossible." - -St. Francis of Assisi
>
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>
> It's All Happening at the Zoo
>
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>
>Last week we went to see the new baby gorilla.
>There she was, having breakfast ala Mommy.
>
>" Oh look, the baby is drinking milk
>from her mommmies boob**ies."
>
>The lady next to me, looks at her 5 year old
>and politely says, " oh yes, the baby is nursing."
>
>Spell it out.
>Break it down to the lowest terms you can for kids.
>If you are too simplistic
>then it is much easier to take it up a level.
>
>By including adoption or birds and bees talk
>in everyday life,
>it helps keep the issues above the surface.
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>
> Real Life offers great
> Ed Opportunities
>
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>Adopting again
>or know someone who is?
>A fabulous chance
>for a child to watch the process happen.
>
>"Hey Kai's getting a baby sister.
> Her mother is flying back to China
> to the baby home.
>
> Just like we did when you became
> part of our family."
>
> " Maybe she'll show us her first picture?"
> " Hey let's look at your referral picture."
>****
>
>I do off the wall stuff sometimes.
>( my poor daughter-)
>My kid's gym teacher is having a baby.
>
>Asked my daughter "oh is the baby staying with her
>or going to a another family or baby home?"
>" Staying with her."
>" Do most babies stay with their first family?"
> She nods yes.
>
>Go with what works for you
>but always be checking to see what is going on in their little minds.
>More talk means less anxiety.
>Less for you
>Less for them.
>Some stuff takes years to be OK with.
>I want my daugther to
>have less emotional pain. period.
>##################################################
>
> Does Your Child Like Lobster or Cotton Candy?
>
>Remember when you were a kid?
>How foreign grown up taste was-
>especially when it came to food or dress?
>
>Grown ups wanted things to match.
>and they didn't appreciate the taste of cotton candy.
>
>Or want to watch 100 reruns of Dora
>What was the matter with them?
>
>OK The same stuff applies to lifebook supplies.
>You may like attractive,
>culturally appropriate albums.
>Stickers in Chinese or Russian.
>Really attractive artwork translated into paper....
>
>Why would a 6 year old want the same thing
>as you?
>I admit I get carried away myself when I shop
>for lifebook goodies
>and
>end up with stuff that has meaning for me
>but not the same for my little one.
>
>As a social worker
>I have a large box filled with all sorts of
>papers, stickers etc
>so kids can select what they like.
>
>It always reminds me of how different their taste is
>than mine.
>
>So remember,
>this album is for your child.
>Let them have yea or nay over whatever they can.
>
>Bite the bullet if they want Barbie stickers.
>
>Control control control.....
>
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> Cool
Reader Tip
>My first time hearing this suggestion. Thanks
>
>https://clicks.aweber.com/z/ct/?TNxGfxTDHo3mp.2s6Nz8eg
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> May is National Foster Care Month
>
> Special thanks to all who help
> change foster kids' lives
>
> Prizes to the first, third, and 10th foster parent
> who email me.
>
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>
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>
> to the 7th social worker or foster parent
> who emails me.
>
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> Personal Stuff May 2006
>
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>I don't write much
>about potty training.
>Probably because it is taking a long time.
>
>But I get such a kick out of
>potty language.
>Going to the bathroomroom is no longer a verb.
>
>To pee is to 'have pees'.
>Polina announces that her pees
>'don't want to come out'
>Actually it's those d*amn poops.
>
>When I got stuck in Atlanta for 3 nights
>potty training came to a grinding halt.
>
>Never did I ever think that
>the sound of pees
>would be exciting.
>Musical.
>Wonderful.
>Once again,
>as a waiting parent
>I never knew what would be in store. smile.
>
>I do worry.
>What if I have the only kid who's not potty trained?
>Ever?
>Great. She has a lifebook but....
>
>It does come back to control.
>Having control.
>Losing control.
>Needing control.
>***
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>Take Care Beth
>
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> I'm changing my mind on trying to
> stay organized with these 'archives.
>
> I'll keep them posted this month and
next---
> then poof. delete.
>
>
>For 2003 archives: starting with my journey into motherhood
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>
>2004: Personal Stuff archives
>click here:
>https://clicks.aweber.com/z/ct/?Jw3ZnGeWLSmfhkmHDsM3QA
>
>2005
>working on it...
>
>2006: Personal Stuff archives
>https://clicks.aweber.com/z/ct/?404SUl5rWCUml3JZ2L03ew
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